5 Types Of Useless Responses
Do you have these moments?
When you upset about some things, someone somewhere will make it even worse by saying things that are unimaginably stupid or useless. Or they will play down that particular incident and all you wish is to slap the person across the face. I am no great comfort-er but knowing when to shut up helps.
Possibly one of the most useless statement of all times simply because it holds no weight. Such statement is most commonly heard when someone died. Like:
A: Hey! Wanna hangout tomorrow?
B: No, I can't. My uncle died so I have to attend his funeral.
A: Oh, so sorry to hear that.
*cricket sound*
What can B possibly say?
'nah is ok, we weren't close.' or 'yea, he was my favourite uncle' *proceeds to cry*
Let's be honest here, are you REALLY sorry?
Or are you just sorry that B can't play with you the next day?
No one, except maybe Mother Theresa can empathise with people whom you have never seen before. So I think, this statement comes across as the most insincere statement of all times.
Normally these two words do not come up when you are upset, they come up when you are feeling generous/kind.
Here's a typical scenario:
You: I am going to grab a drink, do you want any?
Friend: Yeah sure!
You: Okay... so what do you want?
Friend: Anything.
You: Well, they don't sell anything.
Friend: Ok fine, whatever!
Actually some smart person tried to ride on this trend and created the below drinks...
I can't find them in SG anymore.. hmm.
Picture this:
You: OMG! I won tickets to F1 Night Race!!
Friend: Right. K.
Immediately this will be what's going on in your mind.
Ok maybe not such a long sentence, but along the lines (like literally).
People like this think the Earth owes it to them to be even evolving, and so by the same interpretation, you owe it to them to be winning, whatever is it you are winning/feeling/doing.
The good news is you can feel less angry by not telling them any good news you have.
In fact, stop talking to them altogether and use the exact same phrase back at them.
Oh, revenge is sweet!
GF: I have got three projects, two tutorials, one presentation DUE ON THE SAME DAY!
GF: AND I HAVEN'T DONE ANY!!
BF: It's going to be alright babe.
GF: *upset* boss scolded me today, but it wasn't my fault!
GF: Now I am afraid to go to work tomorrow.
BF: It's gonna be alright.
GF: *sobs uncontrollably* Lucky is missing! For 2 hours already I can't find him
BF: It's alright, he will come back.
This is when you say
OBVIOUSLY, things will be alright. It's either they will be ok in 5minutes or in 50 years right?
When you girlfriend (let's not be anti-singles here) or your friend complains to you about something, he/she is not feeling alright at that instance. so keep this statement out of your 'comfort people' list to save your relationship.
Whenever you tell him something bad, he almost always have someone he knew (my auntie's friend's godson's nephew's sister-in-law's mother-in-law's son's friend's friend's girlfriend) having the same experience as you did. The best part, that someone will always have it worse than you.
Like this:
You: My aunt.. just died.
Him: Oh? Of what? (he scores points for not saying Phrase I here).
You: Breast cancer.
Him: Oh. When?
You: Yesterday :(
Him: oh, you know my friend's girlfriend's aunt died of breast cancer like 2 weeks ago. Now that's sad.
o.0
Here's Lao Tzu's word of advice to those who are the 'him' in the conversation.
The next time if you ever encounter awkward situations, never ever end with these statements.
Offer your help, offer it sincerely. Even when the person knows you can't do it for him/her (e.g. I will kill your boss for you using rainbow attack! <- I have no idea what that is), it can make a person feel better.
To the people who always like to put other people in awkward situations (like knowing 100 people who die everyday (non-terrorism/war/crime related)), please for goodness sake, don't tell everyone you know, tell those who care.
Oh, and never ever put it up on Facebook.
Because that will invite...Come on, everyone feels bored at times, we need.. entertainment okay?
When you upset about some things, someone somewhere will make it even worse by saying things that are unimaginably stupid or useless. Or they will play down that particular incident and all you wish is to slap the person across the face. I am no great comfort-er but knowing when to shut up helps.
1) Sorry To Hear That
Possibly one of the most useless statement of all times simply because it holds no weight. Such statement is most commonly heard when someone died. Like:
A: Hey! Wanna hangout tomorrow?
B: No, I can't. My uncle died so I have to attend his funeral.
A: Oh, so sorry to hear that.
*cricket sound*
What can B possibly say?
'nah is ok, we weren't close.' or 'yea, he was my favourite uncle' *proceeds to cry*
Let's be honest here, are you REALLY sorry?
Or are you just sorry that B can't play with you the next day?
No one, except maybe Mother Theresa can empathise with people whom you have never seen before. So I think, this statement comes across as the most insincere statement of all times.
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2) Anything. Whatever.
Another statement that does not value-add.Normally these two words do not come up when you are upset, they come up when you are feeling generous/kind.
Here's a typical scenario:
You: I am going to grab a drink, do you want any?
Friend: Yeah sure!
You: Okay... so what do you want?
Friend: Anything.
You: Well, they don't sell anything.
Friend: Ok fine, whatever!
Actually some smart person tried to ride on this trend and created the below drinks...
I can't find them in SG anymore.. hmm.
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| http://www.squallch33s3.blogspot.sg/ |
3) Right. Okay.
If you ever need a killjoy, this is the type of person you should be friends with. Remember the opposite of love is not hate, is indifference. Indifference kills everything - relationship, communication, performance etc etc.Picture this:
You: OMG! I won tickets to F1 Night Race!!
Friend: Right. K.
Immediately this will be what's going on in your mind.
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| http://www.keepcalm-o-matic.co.uk/ |
Ok maybe not such a long sentence, but along the lines (like literally).
People like this think the Earth owes it to them to be even evolving, and so by the same interpretation, you owe it to them to be winning, whatever is it you are winning/feeling/doing.
The good news is you can feel less angry by not telling them any good news you have.
In fact, stop talking to them altogether and use the exact same phrase back at them.
Oh, revenge is sweet!
4) It's Going To Be Alright
This sentence comes up when you are exceptionally vex about something and will no doubt set you off. Normally, this sentence will be said by your innocent boyfriend (who isn't really so innocent if you think about it, because he should know your character by now), who thinks it is a statement of comfort.GF: I have got three projects, two tutorials, one presentation DUE ON THE SAME DAY!
GF: AND I HAVEN'T DONE ANY!!
BF: It's going to be alright babe.
GF: *upset* boss scolded me today, but it wasn't my fault!
GF: Now I am afraid to go to work tomorrow.
BF: It's gonna be alright.
GF: *sobs uncontrollably* Lucky is missing! For 2 hours already I can't find him
BF: It's alright, he will come back.
This is when you say
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When you girlfriend (let's not be anti-singles here) or your friend complains to you about something, he/she is not feeling alright at that instance. so keep this statement out of your 'comfort people' list to save your relationship.
5) Yea, Well Okay.. My Aunt..
Similar to people who uses phrase III, people who use this phrase, or phrases similar to this are self centred and think that the entire Universe came about because of him (I said him, not Him, don't get all religious on me).Whenever you tell him something bad, he almost always have someone he knew (my auntie's friend's godson's nephew's sister-in-law's mother-in-law's son's friend's friend's girlfriend) having the same experience as you did. The best part, that someone will always have it worse than you.
Like this:
You: My aunt.. just died.
Him: Oh? Of what? (he scores points for not saying Phrase I here).
You: Breast cancer.
Him: Oh. When?
You: Yesterday :(
Him: oh, you know my friend's girlfriend's aunt died of breast cancer like 2 weeks ago. Now that's sad.
o.0
Here's Lao Tzu's word of advice to those who are the 'him' in the conversation.
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The next time if you ever encounter awkward situations, never ever end with these statements.
Offer your help, offer it sincerely. Even when the person knows you can't do it for him/her (e.g. I will kill your boss for you using rainbow attack! <- I have no idea what that is), it can make a person feel better.
To the people who always like to put other people in awkward situations (like knowing 100 people who die everyday (non-terrorism/war/crime related)), please for goodness sake, don't tell everyone you know, tell those who care.
Oh, and never ever put it up on Facebook.
Because that will invite...Come on, everyone feels bored at times, we need.. entertainment okay?
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